Hello and good morning!
I am currently reading “The Healthy Mind Toolkit” by Alice Boyes.
This book is all about simple strategies that help us reduce anxiety as well as reduce our self-sabotaging behaviors.
As I am reading, a concept struck me as something I would like to share as it really hits home.
Boyes writes “Have you ever noticed that if you frame goals by saying, ‘I’m going to make better decisions about….’, you tend to not follow through?”
When you say “I’m going to make better decisions about…”, that is leaving it up to chance. This is leaving it up to the fact that depending on your mood, you will make better choices about that.
For me instead of saying “I’m going to make better decisions about…” I say, “I am”, and then I set up a schedule that aligns with that goal.
For example, my health is something I am focusing on. So instead of saying “I am going to make better decisions about what I eat”, I instead say “I am making healthy foods that fuel my body”. I then plan my meal prep for the week, and I do grocery shopping that aligns with that goal.
I think setting ourselves up for success when we are in our high and motivated stage helps us when we don’t want to follow that goal and we are unmotivated.
This really stood out to me and I hope this helps you stop your self-sabotaging ways.
Thank you for reading, and I will see you next time. Bye!